Raising thriving kids

Raising thriving kids

 

 

Children are a gift from God and as parents it is our job to make sure we are good stewards of what God entrusted us with. When a child is happy, it is most likely that the entire household beams with joy. Yes, there will be downtimes but they should never overshadow the good times.

A thriving child will grow up to be an adult one day. We need to be mindful of what seeds we plant in their early childhood to ensure an emotionally stable adult in the future.

Today I want to focus on toddlers/pre-schoolers specifically. Their minds are under tremendous development and still needs a lot of stimulation and guidance. Let’s talk about the latter for a moment…

Our little ones often have tantrums when they are not allowed certain things e.g standing on the table. To them it is enjoyable and they love the adrenalin rush they get when they look down. But, their brain has not made a connection to safe/dangerous. They don’t know that they can get hurt by doing that. So, what do we do? Take them off and they cry.

How do we handle those emotional outbursts:

  • Validate their feelings
  • Give an alternative to what they want (distraction)
  • Let them know they are loved

Understanding how our children’s emotions work and supporting them accordingly will ensure that they are happy and deal with their emotions the right way.

It is our job to keep them safe and help them understand life.

One other thing that I believe is to allow children to play “carefree”. Let them make those mudcakes, let them smear the paint all over them, let they explore the garden. See their creativeness come out in various ways. They use this carefree play to express their emotions or just give an outlet of what is going on in their little brain. This way, things are not cropped up in their little hearts. It also gives them a sense of being in control.

To add to my last statement, children also want to be in control. It makes them feel important which is vital in their development. Allow them to be in control sometimes. Let them choose the colour cup they would like or a fruit of their choice. This way they also learn to make their own decisions, be creative and become less dependent on you.

When your child is happy and understand how to navigate their emotions accordingly, they will trust you enough to let you into their space and the “not so pretty moments”. A child, who has a safe place, is a thriving child.

Let us be their refuge and safe place, let’s raise thriving kids.

 

 

6 tips to prepare your child for (back to) school

6 tips to prepare your child for (back to) school

 

By now most of us probably found a school for our child(ren) already and are ready for the new year.

Going to school for the first time or after a long break can be daunting on our kids (and us). With the pandemic still lurking, a lot of us are still deciding if we will send our children back to school. Some parents don’t have a choice, because they are going back to work.

Children thrive on preparation and it makes the first day (back) at school less stressful. They feel secure when they know what is coming and this also prevent tantrums.

Here are 6 tips to prepare your little one for school:

  • Tell them about the school. The name, the teacher and the fun they will have at school. If you have a photo of the teacher, their name and school show it to your child. I would highly recommend starting with this ASAP.

 

  • If you can, take them for a drive (often if possible) and go passed the school. Tell them “this is your school and you will start coming here from (date and day)”. This makes them familiar with the environment.

 

  • Let them mark it off on a calendar. Make it fun. Take a marker and they cross out the date, if you can put a photo of the school on the start date. Counting “sleepies” to the day is also fun if they are older.

 

  • Allow them to choose a snack (that you already have in the house) for school to make it exciting for when you get to point number 5.

 

  • Bag the deal! Your little one will enjoy helping you pack their bag for school. Pack it the night before school and add what you need to (things they shouldn’t see) when you can. This will fuel the excitement.

 

  • Lastly, assure them at drop off that you are coming back to pick them up. If you need to, leave something of you with them that they are familiar with (e.g a hairband and put it around their wrist) and tell them you are coming back to get it.

 

The first few days might be rough at first (both mom and child) but they will soon love school to the point where they ask when they are going back. I think we as moms have more separation anxiety than our kiddies at times. Enjoy the school year. I look forward to see your little ones grow in this year.

Happy New Year-2021

Happy New Year-2021

 

 

It is no secret that 2020 was one of the years where we were challenged in more ways we could have imagined. I personally was challenged in all areas of my life.

We are in a new year and things won’t just automatically restore, it is still a process. But I am sure we had a mindshift and want 2021 to be better. There is however so much uncertainty about the year ahead and some of us may be hesitant to set goals. So, let’s do things a little different instead.

The year 2020 rattled us all and we need a reset of ourselves. I am certain in this time we also lost someone or something. But it is time to put the focus back on us again and be better versions of ourselves than in 2020. Especially as parents, our children needs us in your best state, they also went through a lot

 

Let us focus on the following:

-mental health

-personal development

-being present

-healthier food choices

-excel in our gifts

-make time for ourselves

-take one step at a time, progress over perfection

-set healthy boundaries

 

I pray that your spirit will be restored. That you grow into a better and stronger version of yourself. That you will heal. Most importantly, that you have a closer relationship with God, experiences love and have joy unspeakable.

Stay safe, God bless you.